Living in France - understanding French etiquette, customs, culture, and language
When relocating to France or spending time here in a holiday home, understanding and integrating yourself with the local French culture and customs is a key element of settling in.
When adapting to a new life in France, you will need to become acquainted with French culture and customs, as well as observing any specific customs in your local area. You would probably be forgiven if you should accidentally insult your hosts, but it is better to be familiar with the different accepted taboos. There is perhaps a more formal approach to greetings and courtesies in France than you may think, especially in comparison to the UK or USA. French culture and customs go back so many hundreds of years and even in today’s modern world, there is a strong legacy of the family coming first. Families tend to stick together and generations mix easily. This is probably one of the main reasons why we love France – not to mention of course the wonderful food and wine!
The more you find out about French traditions and culture, the more you will want to learn. France includes a long and varied history, with countless legends and customs that have been passed down from one generation to another. Each region of France is unique in its customs, proudly boasting its own distinct version of French culture. Researching these different cultural traditions can be very rewarding.
Formal greetings and goodbyes
When you are introduced to a French person, you need to say “good day, Sir/Madam” (“Bonjour Madame/Monsieur”) and shake their hand (briefly, but firmly). “Salut!” (“Hi” or “hello”) should only be used with good friends and young adults. When saying goodbye, it is a formal custom to shake hands again. In an office environment, everyone shakes hands with everybody else when they arrive at the office, and then shake hands again when they depart.
Learn the language
Any attempt to speak French will be greatly appreciated, if not always understood. Don’t worry about making mistakes – just trying to speak the language will go down well. The most important thing to know is that French is a language with formalities, and using the wrong form of “you” could possibly offend someone. If they are older than you, are your professor, or if you do not know them, use “vous”. If they are a child or your classmate, use “tu”. In days gone by, the “vous” form was almost constantly used, even amongst families, in particular by the upper classes, which may seem strange to us now. The two different forms of “you” exist in other European countries also, so it is important for British visitors and expats to learn the difference.
The most important thing to know is that French is a language with formalities, and using the wrong form of “you” could possibly offend someone.
Examples of French traditions: Focus on French food
Many traditions and customs in France focus on food – perhaps unsurprising in a country so well known for its gastronomical accomplishments. If you are planning to move to France, or will simply be visiting throughout the year, it’s really worthwhile learning about all the different foods and recipes on offer in your chosen region of France, experimenting with local and national delicacies.
Beheading the Champagne
One unique tradition in France is the beheading of Champagne bottles at weddings, using an exclusively made sabre. This tradition is said to have originated in Napoleonic times, when Champagne bottles were beheaded in the same way to celebrate victory.
The festive season
The holiday season, including Christmas, sees many old customs and traditions in France being followed. Members of the family and friends participate in the late Christmas Dinner, usually held on Christmas Eve, following the holy Christmas Mass. Roast turkey is the most common item on the menu.
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